| If you're looking for love, then getting past the first date | | | | to avoid those "but" thoughts - like when you want a |
| is the initial step ... follow these life-coaching essentials | | | | girl friend, BUT you are afraid a relationship will hold you |
| and guaranteed your first date butterflies will be | | | | back; or when you want a boy friend, BUT you really |
| something to look forward to! | | | | like having a clean kitchen and a vibrant single life. |
| Figure out what you want | | | | Decide that you want what you say you want, and |
| What is your dream? Why do you date? Why do you | | | | get rid of those doubts. |
| flirt? Many people are afraid of what they want, | | | | Fantasize freely |
| because they will feel disappointed if they don't get it. | | | | Imagine how it would be if you were there, in your |
| This is why we don't dare to dream or set goals. But if | | | | dream. Walk around in your everyday life and pretend |
| we never think of what would make us happy, the | | | | you have the perfect partner. Act and feel as if you |
| chances are small we will ever be really happy. We | | | | were happy and in love. Build up a whole movie in your |
| will instead be pushed in different directions by the | | | | head. Day dream and see you and your partner as |
| needs of others. You have to ask yourself what | | | | stars in that film! It has been known that when you |
| would make your life better: What is your dream? | | | | imagine something so much it starts to materialize. |
| What is perfect living for you? | | | | Feel the success |
| Find positive thoughts | | | | If you smile you will feel happy. If you think of |
| To reach your goals you need to think of what you | | | | something that once made you sad you will feel |
| want - not on what you don't want. Still, many people | | | | sadness. Yes, your feelings are quite easy to control, |
| are stuck in thoughts like "I don't want to be lonely" or "I | | | | so use that power to feel as good as you deserve. |
| will never find a boyfriend". Problem is that those | | | | Try to find the right "I am loved and happy" feelings. IF |
| thoughts will keep you in that state. They are holding | | | | you were in that great relationship you want, how |
| you back, keeping you in what is today instead of | | | | would you feel right now? Train the butterflies in your |
| taking you forward. Try to change all negative | | | | stomach by using them. Be aware of your emotions |
| thoughts to positive. Say "I want to meet someone", "I | | | | towards everything in life and you will experience a |
| am going to be happy", "I want to feel more confident". | | | | greater range of feelings. And focus only on those |
| Focus on your goal | | | | great successful feelings that will be your shortcut to |
| When you know what you want and why you want it, | | | | success. |
| it is time to move on. Be focused on your goal, and try | | | | |